HOW TO FIND A WIFE (SPOUSE) Main Text: Genesis 24:1-7 (Mathew 7:7-8, Proverbs 16:3, 9; 18:22; 31:10)

Introduction

·         It is God’s idea to leave and cleave.

·         It is God’s will for one to marry.

·         Marriage is a good thing and a blessing from God.

·         Marriage is honourable and makes you honoured – Genesis 2:21, 24, Psalms 68:6, Ruth 3:1 (CEV), Hebrew 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2, 9, 38a, Ephesians 5:32-33, Colossians 3:18-19.

Biblical Marriage Eligibility: A Single Man or Woman or Parent that is unmarried; A Widow or Widower.

Biblical Marriage Ineligibility: A Divorcee; Temporarily Separated Person.

1)   Before you start to find pray to God for a wife, ask for:

a)   A wife who fears (that is, loves) the Lord – Proverbs 31:30, Ruth 1:16.

b)   A virtuous (that is, good) wife – Proverbs 31:30, 12:4, 11:16a.

c)   A prudent (that is, gracious) wife – Proverbs 14:1; 19:14, Ruth 3:11.

d)   A beautiful wife – remember, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. For some, beauty is character or manners, or diligence, or intelligence or physical etc – Psalms 20:4, Proverbs 11:23a.

      Then find among your “Country” and “Kindred” as gleaned from main text:

a)   Country means family of God – A Born again Christian.

b)   Kindred means  the catchment area or your immediate location in the family of God e.g., your church, your church service group / department, your work or business place, your vicinity – Genesis 24:4, 7, 1 Corinthians 7:39, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18.

2)   Do not be parochial when finding a wife e. g., She must come from my tribe or nation etc – Romans 3:22, 29; 10:12, Galatians 3:28, Colossians 3:11.

3)   You can ask for proof or confirmation or sign or testifying or conviction or inward witness from the Holy Spirit (this is optional) – Genesis 24:12-14, Romans 8:16, Acts 5:32, 2Corinthians 1:22; 5:5.

4)   As you find wisely as enumerated above God will put your wife in “your space” for you to “see” her – Genesis 2:22; 24:15; 29:9-10, Ruth 2:2-3, 5.

5)   And when you “see” her, approach and declare your intentions to her. And if she declines and says NO, go back to God and report and He will tell you to wait or be alert and shine your eyes as He sends another one – Genesis 2:23; 24:33, 49.

6)   Note: Have a heart for God, love and walk with Him and He will give you a spouse even without you praying about it because God loves you in return and has your best interest at heart – Boaz and Ruth loved God, so God brought them together – Ruth 1:16; 2:4.

7)   Note: It can also be the other way round where the woman does the finding and obtains favour from God. It is scriptural, all you need to do is find wisely as enumerated above and pass out the signals discreetly or even broach it to him – Ruth 3:3-6, 9, 11, 16-18. 
8) And when you have found, give thanks to the Lord – Genesis 24:26-27, 48, and 52.